Advice letter about dating
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just about five years now. I made clear to him in the beginning that I am looking to get married and have children one day. He had previously been married for three years, no kids, and it was a very ugly divorce.Just recently, the subject of marriage came up and he said, to my surprise, that he doesn’t ever want to marry again. I have a huge number of friends online all getting married and having children.
For so long I’ve been fantasizing about all the things I’m going to get done with this huge increase in time to myself, I just can’t wait. We matched a couple of months before he moved to my city. You can read about me here, peruse the archives here and read popular posts here.(There’s a pool and a treehouse here; the kids are in heaven!That he “doesn’t believe in it anymore.” This broke my heart, but I accepted it because he is very anti-conformist and had bad experiences in his first marriage. One of my closest girlfriends, who’s been ambivalent her whole life about marrying and having kids, now has done exactly that.
He did say he’s happy to eventually have a ceremony and assume the titles of husband and wife, exchange rings, etc., but doesn’t want the government or religion involved. And I can’t even look at her Facebook page without crying because I feel like I missed the boat by being in the relationship I’m in.For context: My husband and I are in our early 30s, together for thirteen years and married for eight, and we have two wonderful children under the age of five.