Emotional involvement with casual dating
For whatever reason, we often interpret the "what are we" question as part of a mission to lock us down.
But it doesn't necessarily convey interest in taking a step forward.
(I know, unbelievable.) Sometimes, the “what are we” question is rooted in a desire for clarity.
It's simply meant to gauge Unfortunately, as the question is usually posed to you while you’re giving mixed signals, answers range from claiming emotional unavailability to defensively saying, “I said I wasn’t looking for anything serious." This would be fine if your actions didn’t indicate otherwise, thus prompting the question in the first place. Dating doesn't have to lead to the dreaded “what are we." But if you continue to consistently date people you do not want to fully develop relationships with, there are major do’s and don’t’s to having a good time respectfully, so no one has to be stuck wondering why you were okay with them meeting your mother, but not cool with discussing your status. When you do not want to get into a relationship and you do not want to be alone, you need to take an inward look at yourself before dating.
However, if they never directly addressed the situation through open communication, there may be misinterpretation of relationship boundaries.There is a difference between love-making and having good, mutually beneficial sex. You should be practicing safe sex always, but particularly with those individuals you don’t want anything serious with. You wouldn’t put in hard work at your job, progressing and growing, and expect not to move forward in your career. To keep dating fun and flexible, all you have to do is hold yourself accountable.