Also — and this is crucial for understanding purity culture — they fervently believed in a specific earthly reward for their child’s youthful obedience.Courtship represented the best method of ensuring a healthy, sexually vibrant marriage to a faithful spouse.“By all the measurements I have for defining a Christian,” he said, “I am not a Christian.” He apologized to the LGBT community for not affirming gay marriage and for the ways that his writing and speaking “contributed to a culture of exclusion and bigotry.” For Christians, it’s a sad statement, but it’s also full of real integrity.Rather than try to jam Christianity into his evolving worldview, he respects orthodoxy by opting out.f you don’t live in Evangelical-world, you probably missed this news.An influential Evangelical author and pastor named Joshua Harris announced on Saturday that he was in the process of “deconstruction.” His statement was clear.
It was part of the foundation of Evangelical “purity culture,” and it revolutionized parenting and dating for countless Christian parents and families. I was a youth pastor for a few memorable months at the height of the courtship craze.
Sometimes the despair would trigger wild rebellion.
If they’re “ruined,” then why should they care about obedience?
They’re not defined even by their own meager virtues. Moreover, they find that “for those who love God, things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” This does not by any stretch mean that past sin wasn’t sin — one of my best friends is an eleven-years-sober addict who did dreadful things during his worst days — but it does mean that their past now gives them a unique ability to reach suffering people.
Their terrible stories and past pain have been redeemed, transformed into instruments of grace and mercy.There are two states of being — virgin or not, teetotaler or not — and if you’re not, then you might as well indulge yourself.