Men and dating rules
Of course, similar to elsewhere, online dating in the Netherlands is increasingly becoming the norm as taboos are shed, particularly among older daters.This has changed the Dutch dating game in some respects as ‘first dates‘ are moving to online dating platforms and social media.And if you are ready to narrow down the world of possibilities, sign up to eharmony today- find someone made for you.While many foreigners initially find dating in the Netherlands daunting or inaccessible, understanding Dutch personality traits and mentality can help reduce miscommunicating the ‘flirting’ signals as practised by Dutch women and Dutch men.I think men need to realise that women are just as frustrated and scared by the whole dating process as they are and that even a simple ‘hello’ can make a world of difference. Us women have such a tough time trying to make sure we’re approachable but not a ‘floozy’, that we are mysterious, but not rude, and that we show enough interest so he knows we’re keen, but not too much that he assumes we’re desperate! So really, as long as it takes to make sure the clothes are looking good and the grooming ritual is complete! I like to keep my make-up quite natural, but if it’s a Saturday night and we are going somewhere fancy, I’ll do my hair.Then I usually have some sort of outfit crisis and then finally, after I put on what I tried on first, I spend a few minutes doing last minute things like adding jewellery, spritzing perfume, applying moisturiser to my legs and looking for my keys and phone…
Also, if you’re only meeting in-person for the first time, I think you get the impression of how it’s going to go right from the first time you see them.
Beau: A photo that includes a member of the opposite sex. Any photo with an animal makes him seem sweet and caring, and can also act as a great conversation starter. Men can get so caught up in worrying about what she’ll say, what she’ll think, what other people will think, that she’ll say no. Usually, a first date will be a drink after work so I’ll just freshen up before I leave the office.
Without an explanation, we’re instantly going to assume it’s a former partner and start comparing ourselves to them. They get so consumed by the negatives in a situation that they are defeated before they even start. If it’s a weekend date, I’ll make sure my outfit is clean, ironed and appropriate for the location and make sure the hair is wrestled into place.
How hard is it to send a text, “Hey, it was great to meet you and I did have a great time, but I think we’d be better as friends.” We all know what that means, but at least he’s let you go without you wondering whether you should send him text to check if he got the last one.
Beau: One thing I wish women knew is that sometimes, guys just don’t feel like communicating.
That’s why I encourage all guys to make sure they’re groomed and showing their best possible self. If I feel comfortable, chances are he does too and we’re ‘clicking’.